Best Friend v Girlfriend

One thing you must know about me is that I'm very over protective and boldy self-righteous. I have a male best friend that I have known since 5th grade. I confide in him about things I don't tell some of my best girlfriends. Now there are a lot of different theorys on whether men and women can be just friends and I am here to testify that it can be done. He and I have laid in the same bed together and not so much as grazed asses.I have laughed in the faces of his girlfriends (and current) girlfriend who dare to go up against me. Most of them have these pre conceived notions and decide to dislike me before even meeting me. Sigh.(I request that they calm their insecure asses down this is not Brown Sugar.) So in all the years of us knowing eachother if something was going to happen I think it would have by now. Dont you? Here comes the dilemma... His girlfriends ALWAYS look at me like I just stole the cock right out of their hands! Currently my best friends girlfriend has a bit (read: BIG) of a problem with me...

They have been dating for 2 years now I think and she and I have never gotten the chance to meet. Yet because of a brief run in over the telephone when they first began dating she has since had a few ruffled feathers that I had no knowledge of. She recently decided to send me a message over Facebook. (Im trying to avoid the ruffling of any more feathers so these "characters" will remain nameless) Here goes...

Hi BEST FRIEND,
I asked "Jason" if it would be okay to send you a message and of course he shrugged his shoulders. Anyway, I wanted to clear the air between the two of us. While you probably don't have any issues with me (at least that is what Jason said) I want you to know that I don't have any issues with you. It was unclear when he went to DC my feelings about the situation and I know he could have expressed somethings that may have not been true. The issue that I did have with you was from so long ago and I have dropped it. I just thought that I would let everything go because I don't want there to be any "hard" feelings when we eventually meet each other.I hope you have a great weekend!Girlfriend My response...

Sidenote: "It was unclear when he went to DC my feelings about the situation and I know he could have expressed somethings that may have not been true" She basically forbade him from staying at my place while he came to visit and he agreed to stay in a hotel to shut her up. Instead he stayed and my place and slept on the couch.

Girlfriend,

Wow. Definitely didn't expect a message from you in MY inbox but I respect it...Hmmmm.Well I was never aware that there was any reason to have ill will. (Not from my end at least) I do remember that conversation from a looooong time ago where I was on speaker phone answering some "hypothetical" question which I apparently answered incorrectly in your eyes. (This is my assumption) But to be honest I didn't even know the depth of your relationship so at that point you were just another girl in my eyes.My apologies for any brutal words that were said in that conversation but as I'm sure you probably now know, that's just me. To be honest I never thought twice about that conversation until now. Its all water under the bridge...Regarding his trip to DC I'm still out of the loop as to why it was such an issue.I don't know if your insecurity lyed with him coming and staying with me or if it dealt with something else but "Jason" and I are the best of friends. NOTHING more! Trust.(Me dancing in the club with him made me vomit in my mouth a little.lol) So you have nothing to worry about. One thing I know for sure is that he really cares for you.I hope that this settles your uneasyness b/c it looks like we're going to be a part of eachothers lives in some capacity so we might as well be friends :)

Ciao!
~best friend

Best friend,
I do want to clarify why I was upset about the DC trip. Whether friends or not I feel that it is completely unnacceptable for my boyfriend to go stay with any girl. While I know that you and him are just friends and it is nothing personal against you....it is not appropriate period. I think you would feel the same way if your boyfriend would go stay with another girl. Jason and I have already come to that agreement as he knows if the situation was reverse he would throw a fit.I just wanted to clarify that. All in all we have moved passed it...and like u said its water under the bridge.
~girlfriend

Ummmmm.That last message from her was not even worthy of my response.

Ok.So I've known my best friend for 15+ years and you're telling me that just because you are insecure you have the right to put up barriers?! Please.One thing you must realize 1. I was here first and am not going anywhere 2. Your insecurity is NOT my problem.I am NOT your competition 3. Please do not go up against me b/c I will hurt your feelings and make you cry. 4.I am the least of your worries, but if u want me to point out something for you to worry about I'll be happy to.

So I think I have proven my argument. What do you guys think?